It's pretty much part-and-parcel of being human. That little voice of self-doubt, self-criticism and self-hatred that sneaks its way into our heads. Let's face it, it's easy enough to allow ourselves to believe we just aren't good enough. I'm as guilty as the next person of this. So my affirmation for today is: I am good enough. Early in my parenting journey (my kids are now 16, 15, 13, 12 & 9), I think I expected far more of them than was reasonable. After all, we all want well behaved kids. Kids who are "a credit to [us]" and all that. But realistically, children are children, they are people and they're far less able to be perfect than we adults are, so why expect perfection? Funnily enough, people do tell me that my children are a credit to me, but I let my unreasonably high expectations of them slide a long time ago. So why are we so harsh on ourselves? Most people have a negative chit-chat going on in their brain that far exceeds any criticism that they'd mete out to others. And no more so than when we (heaven forbid!) make a mistake *gasp*. When other people make mistakes, we may get a little annoyed, or we may pull them up on it, but mostly we appreciate that they're human and let it go. So why do we expect a perfection of ourselves that we don't even contemplate expecting from others? I have no answer to this, but today I am working to accept that I am human and accept that I will always make mistakes, then try to let go, forgive myself and move on. I am good enough.
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